Listen around you, Do you hear that? It’s people saying over and over again, “I’m just not happy“. In this self obsessed crazy world, virtually no one is satisfied with what they have. We live in a time where most people desire to live in a fantasy world that is unachievable, and therefore they remain in a constant state of depression. They compare their own lives to that of TV and movies and books, etc… and desire things that do not exist in reality.
How often does someone buy an expensive object thinking that it will make them happy, only to see that the newness fades quickly, and something different is now more desirable? Rather than possessions making a person happy, it just makes them more covetous than before, and in a constant state of wanting something that they do not have.
Eve had everything that she could ask for, but threw it all away for the one object she could not have. (Genesis 3)
How often does someone quit their job because they believe that a new job will make them more money, and that will bring them happiness, only to find that it causes bigger problems?
Achan thought that riches would bring happiness to his family, only to find out that it destroyed them all. (Joshua 7)
How often does a husband or wife seek happiness in the arms of another, because they wish they could have the fantasy relationship that doesn’t exist in reality? They bounce from person to person because they seek a dream that’s not real.
David saw a beautiful woman that was another man’s wife, and thought that she could bring him happiness, but ultimately it brought a man of God to his knees in grief. (2 Samuel 11 & 12)
We are always looking into our neighbors yard and thinking “his grass is greener than mine” and “I would be truly happy if I just had what he has”. This kind of thinking always leads us to deeper unhappiness and further depression, because it is a never ending cycle of disappointments. We truly convince ourselves that if we get something, that we will finally be happy, only to find out that isn’t true, and are driven further and further down into a spiral of depression.
James 1:14-15 says “But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.”
There is not a possession in existence that can make us happy, there is not any amount of money that can make us happy, and there is not a person on this planet who can make us happy. True lasting happiness can only come from opening our hearts up to God, and giving him thanks, and praise, for every small thing that he blesses us with. When we see someone get something nice, let’s change how we look at it. Instead of being jealous and petty, let’s have joy with that person, and be thankful that something good happened to our neighbor. Instead of muttering about them, let’s celebrate with them!
James 1:17 says “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.”
If either we, or our neighbor, get a good gift from above, let’s celebrate that gift equally. This is the only way to true joy and happiness. Let’s give thanks to God that he is giving gifts at all, especially the gift that he gave to all of his children, the gift of his Son’s payment of our wretched sin debt. If we focus on that, then we will have no time to be unhappy in our self obsessed pity.
Psalm 37:4 says “Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.”
Does this scripture mean that we will get everything that we desire now? No, it means that if we find our joy in the Lord, the desires of our heart will change into things that will actually make us happy when we receive them.
Finally, I will leave you with the scripture that has become the anthem of our church.
Matthew 6:33 “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”
Are you seeking his kingdom and his righteousness first? Or are you seeking your own fleshly desires first? This is the key to finding what will truly make you happy.