Marriage: The First Covenant

Marriage: The First Covenant

If marriage was easy, it would be worthless, and if marriage wasn’t precious, Satan wouldn’t use all of his power to attack it.

It today’s world the most attacked institution on this earth is marriage.  Why is Satan doing so much to destroy the marriage covenant?  Why is marriage so important?

Marriage is the very first covenant made between man and God:   Genesis 2:23-24 says “And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

The marriage covenant is the foundation for the relationship between man and God.  It was the first thing upon which God built mankind.  If you take out the foundation of a building, the building will fall.  This is why Satan’s primary attack is on the marriage.  He knows that if he can destroy the sacred marriage covenant, society falls into his hands of destruction.  We must be vigilant to protect our marriages because Satan is powerful, and he uses the lusts of our flesh to tell us marriage is old and outdated and doesn’t mean anything anymore.  We must keep our eyes fixed upon God and pray for Him to give us strength to resist the temptations that Satan puts before us.  We see marriages failing at a rapid pace, and because of this, we see society falling into darkness and destruction.  This darkness and destruction can be traced directly to the chipping away of the foundation of marriage.  Be vigilant my brothers and sisters, and pray for your spouse, and be a help to them by grabbing their hand and bringing them before God every day.  Don’t let Satan and the world define marriage.  Look to God who designed and created this perfect institution upon which he built all things.  There’s no greater gift to a man from God, than a biblical marriage, where a husband and wife follow God together.



Submitting Ourselves

Each of us have a different role in the church and a different role in marriage.  I believe that if we live our lives according to the teachings of God’s Word, God will bless our lives more abundantly, and we will live much happier lives.  And if we step out of these roles, it will no doubt cause problems in our relationships with our church brothers and sisters, and the same with our spouses.  The bible gives us a great example of this in God himself, and we will go over that at the end of this study.

Roles in the church

1 Corinthians 12 teaches us about how different people have different roles in the church.  It is a great chapter for us to study how to obtain church harmony.  In verses 4-6 it says “Now there are diversities of gifts, but the same Spirit.  And there are differences of administrations, but the same Lord.  And there are diversities of operations, but it is the same God which worketh all in all.”  And it goes on to say what different gifts there were.  In verse 11 it says “But all these worketh that one and the selfsame Spirit, dividing to every man severally as he will.”  So God assigns and gifts each of us with what he wants for us to do.  In verse 13 it says “For by one Spirit are we all baptized into one body, whether we be Jews or Gentiles, whether we be bond or free; and have been all made to drink into one Spirit.”  So we have all been called by the same God and we are all equals.  No one is superior to another.  In verses 14-18 it says “For the body is not one member, but many.  If the foot shall say, Because I am not the hand, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body?  And if the ear shall say, Because I am not the eye, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body?  If the whole body were an eye, where were the hearing? If the whole were hearing, where were the smelling?  But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him.”  So God has put people where it pleases him, and where it’s in our best interest to be, for the betterment of the church, and also for us as individuals.  If we try to be a part of the body that God has not called us to be, we are disobeying him, and this will cause problems for the church and for us.  Verses 19-23 say “And if they were all one member, where were the body?  But now are they many members, yet but one body.  And the eye cannot say unto the hand, I have no need of thee: nor again the head to the feet, I have no need of you.  Nay, much more those members of the body, which seem to be more feeble, are necessary:  And those members of the body, which we think to be less honourable, upon these we bestow more abundant honour; and our uncomely parts have more abundant comeliness.”  So the church can’t be a complete body without all of it’s parts.  If any are missing it’s not complete.  Some parts, such as a Pastor may seem more flashy to the world and something people want to be, but we can’t all be Pastors.  Be pleased with the role that God has given you and do that role to the best of your ability.  Maybe God has called you to simply be an encourager to others.  Shake somebody’s hand with a smile and say some encouraging words to build them up.  This role may seem low or feeble as the text says, but there is much honor in this role if you do it because God asked you to, and it’s your gift he’s given you.  What if your pastor is down, he’s been getting beat up, he’s depressed, and you go up to him, smile, and give him some encouraging words from God.  Maybe his spirit will be lifted, he preaches a great message, and someone gets saved thru that message?  Don’t you think you were important in that?  Remember each role in the church is vital.  Don’t be jealous of what you don’t have.   Be pleased with what God has given you and use that gift for him.  Verses 24-27 say “For our comely parts have no need: but God hath tempered the body together, having given more abundant honour to that part which lacked:  That there should be no schism in the body; but that the members should have the same care one for another.  And whether one member suffer , all the members suffer with it; or one member be honoured, all the members rejoice with it.  Now ye are the body of Christ, and members in particular.”  So we are reminded that if we serve our roles correctly, we will be of one mind and one accord, as the Apostle Paul teaches us in Phillipians 2:2 “Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind.”

 Roles in Marriage

The husband and wife each have a distinct role in marriage as outlined in the Word of God.  Neither is superior to the other, however there is an order that we are to live by. Ephesians chapter 5 gives us a lesson of these roles.  In verses 22-24 it says “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”  So it is clear here that the husband is to be the leader of the household.  He’s to be a leader, not a boss.  A leader takes you where you need to go, and where you should go.  A boss just takes you where he see’s fit.  If your husband is being a true leader that God called him to be, you should follow him and support him as he follows God, as fully as you are able to, and helping him along the way.  Be an encouragement to him.  Tell him that you will go wherever God leads him.  Verses 25-28 says “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,  That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.”  So it’s clear that men can’t do anything they want just because they are the leader.  They are to love their wife as Christ loved the church.  How much does that mean we should love our wife?  We all know that Christ died a painful and gruesome death for the church, so that’s about as powerful of a love as we could ever imagine.  Husband, don’t lead your wife into despair.  Love her, cherish her, and lead her into paths of righteousness, and if you do that, more than likely she will follow you, and your marriage will be filled with love and happiness.

Our example from the Godhead

I believe that God gave us the perfect example of submitting ourselves and defining our roles.  That example is himself, in the Godhead.  God is 3 parts.  God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.  They are all 100% God and are all co-equals.  However each has a distinct role and they all submit to one another to make perfect harmony.  Jesus Christ did not want to be crucified, but he accepted his role as savior because it was the will of the Father.  Matthew 26:39 says “O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will , but as thou wilt.”  Matthew 26 53-54 says “Thinkest thou that I cannot now pray to my Father, and he shall presently give me more than twelve legions of angels?  But how then shall the scriptures be fulfilled , that thus it must be?”  Jesus Christ could have not gone thru with this.  He had all power, and was God in the flesh.  But he submitted himself to his role that he was given, and thus we have the perfect plan of salvation.  When we submit ourselves to God, and to others, in the roles that we are given, our lives will be richly blessed, and many problems that we face will go away.  Even the Son of God himself accepted the role that he was given.  Are we better than Jesus Christ, that we cannot accept our role that we’ve been given?  Do we know better than Almighty God?  If we take these scriptures to heart, I think this world would be a much more peaceful place.  Try accepting the role that you’ve been given by God, instead of trying to be someone that you are not called to be.  I believe you will be truly blessed if you do.


Choose you this day whom ye will serve!

bible-american-flagWhen did the body of Christ become afraid to speak the truth of God’s Word? When did America change from the land of the free and the home of the brave, to the land of the tyrants and home of the offended? I believe they both happened at the same time. This nation was built upon the backs of the body of Christ. Everything our country did was done with a reverence for God. Our country used to give thanks to God for the blessings that we have received as a nation, and now if we speak about God and his commandments we are threatened with lawsuits, fines and imprisonment.   What has happened to us? How did this happen? What happened to men like Patrick Henry? Are there any willing to stand up for the cause of freedom?

Patrick Henry had his faults but I believe he was an intelligent man and a man who feared God. He is famous for saying “Is life so dear, or peace so sweet, as to be purchased at the price of chains and slavery? Forbid it, Almighty God! I know not what course others may take; but as for me, give me liberty or give me death!” Are we willing to say the same?

LibertyPatrick Henry knew history and warned about what is now happening today when he said “Show me that age and country where the rights and liberties of the people were placed on the sole chance of their rulers being good men, without a consequent loss of liberty?” We have now placed our rights and liberties upon our rulers, and have lost our liberty, just as Henry predicted.

So, we are certainly on the path to our destruction, but are we doomed? That is up to us. Again Patrick Henry said “Three millions of people, armed in the holy cause of liberty, and in such a country as that which we possess, are invincible by any force which our enemy can send against us. Beside, sir, we shall not fight our battles alone. There is a just God who presides over the destinies of Nations, and who will raise up friends to fight our battles for us.” If we look to God, and follow him, and pray for him to lead us, our enemies cannot stand against us.

Isaiah 5:20 says “Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil”. Does this not sound like the people of today? Never before have I seen so many people celebrate evil, and persecute good. Why is this so? I place the full burden of blame upon the body of Christ, who have lain down, and became afraid to speak the truth in love.

joel-osteenWe began making superstars out of our pastors, who then became more interested in growing their own ministry, instead of preaching the truth of scripture. These “superstars” would become willing to compromise God’s Word to make themselves more popular. Because we allowed this to happen, these compromisers have influenced our children, and our children no longer know what truth is. A generation ago we decided to remove the God that our nation was founded upon from all public places including our schools. We are reaping what we have sown from allowing that to happen.

prayer-warrior1So how can we change this?  There is only one way.  We get on our knees before Almighty God and beg him to forgive us, and we rise up as men of God and begin proclaiming the truth of God’s Word no matter the cost to us.   We can’t be afraid of what will happen to us, and we can’t be afraid of offending others.  Christ said in Matthew 10:34-35 “Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.” Christ told us that if we truly speak truth, it will cause conflict. And he also told us in Matthew 10:27 “What I tell you in darkness, that speak ye in light: and what ye hear in the ear, that preach ye upon the housetops.”

SP11Do we still preach upon the housetops in public, or do we cower in fear and only preach in the comfort of our cozy church houses?  Are we doing the Lord’s commandment if we never speak in public about him?  Romans 10:14 says “How then shall they call on him in whom they have not believed? and how shall they believe in him of whom they have not heard? and how shall they hear without a preacher?”  We have failed this nation because we quit proclaiming Christ outside the walls of our church houses.  Are we ashamed to speak about Christ in public?  If we are, we must question if we are a true believer because Romans 10:11 says “For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed.”.

RelationshipOutside of John, Every one of the apostles suffered a martyr’s death for preaching the truth of God’s Word.  They obviously believed God’s Word was worth suffering for.  Do we?  Truth without love is hate.  Love without truth is death.  Truth with love is the key.  Our prayer should be Psalm 86:11 “Teach me thy way, O Lord; I will walk in thy truth: unite my heart to fear thy name.”

So how do we know what to do and say?  How do we fight for our freedom?  Christ gives us the answer in John 8:31-32 “If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” Only by studying his word can we become disciples and only his truth can make us free.

Where are the men who are willing to stand up for what they believe in?  The world is going stand up for “what’s right in their own eyes”.  Will we stand up for real Godly truth?  Will we love people enough to suffer a little for the spreading of the gospel message?  Will we be ashamed to be a Christian, or will we boldly proclaim his message?

Charles Spurgeon said “Half our fears arise from neglect of the Bible.” If we are afraid, it is because we have stopped reading scripture. Will we hide or will we follow Christ? Christ said to us in John 14:15 “If ye love me, keep my commandments.”  Do we truly love Christ?  Are we willing to stand for him?  Are we willing to speak his words?  Will we be like Joshua and boldly proclaim, “choose you this day whom ye will serve”, “as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” Will you choose to hide, or will you be bold, and choose to serve the Lord? I have chosen today to join Joshua.  Will you join me? The future of our nation and our world depend on it.choose